Bored Kids Are Better Off: Why Parents Should Embrace "Good Boredom"

The Magic of Bored Moments

Cas Holman, author of "Playful: How Play Shifts Our Thinking," explains that boredom isn't something to fear—it's an opportunity. When children aren't constantly entertained, they learn to generate their own play and make personal choices.

"When kids have free, unstructured time, they discover entire worlds," Holman says. "They might turn over a rock, throw a stick, or open a book simply because something catches their curiosity."

Why Screens Aren't the Answer

While many parents reach for tablets or phones to combat boredom, these tools actually limit children's developmental potential. Screen time offers passive entertainment, whereas boredom encourages active exploration and decision-making.

Dr. Kyle W Boerke, a child psychologist, highlights an important benefit of boredom: social skill development. Something as simple as a child walking next door to ask a neighbor to play builds confidence, communication skills, and problem-solving abilities.

Practical Ways to Encourage "Good Boredom"

1. Create technology-free zones and times

2. Involve kids in household chores

3. Allow unstructured playtime

4. Resist the urge to constantly entertain

The Long-Term Benefits

Embracing boredom doesn't just help children in the moment. Holman notes that students who are comfortable with unstructured time often become the most innovative thinkers, comfortable exploring unknown territories without constant guidance.

Real-World Skills from Boredom

• Enhanced creativity

• Better decision-making skills

• Improved social interactions

• Increased self-motivation

• Stronger problem-solving abilities

A Parent's Guide to Letting Kids Get Bored

• Don't feel guilty about "empty" time

• Trust that your child can entertain themselves

• Provide simple materials like paper, blocks, or outdoor space

• Be patient as they learn to self-engage

Expert Tip: Let chores become playful adventures. If pasta gets overcooked or socks are folded oddly, that's okay! The goal is exploration and learning.

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Your children have incredible potential—sometimes, all they need is a little space to discover it.